Even the most focused of Mums falls off the organising wagon from time to time – and you know what? That’s OK. Because I believe that Mums should be looking at a broader picture of their life when it comes to getting organised.
And that’s what the eight traits of an organised mum are all about.
Trait #1 – Balancing work and home
This trait is vitally important whether you are working outside or inside the home.
If you think of a set of old fashioned scales with ‘work’ on one side and ‘home’ on the other this will give you a good visual to work with. If you focus on ‘work’ that side of the scales will go down and ‘home’ up – causing things to get unbalanced.
It’s when your life gets too heavily loaded on one side that you need to acknowledge it and gently try to move the scales back to some sort of balance. Because you already know that if you put too much time into one aspect of your life other areas tend to suffer.
Trait #2 – Getting things done
How do you get things done in your busy life that you need to? We are all super busy but sometimes we need to take a step back and say “I can’t do this now – and that’s alright.”
It might sound boring but to get things done you really need discipline and routine. That doesn’t mean every hour of your day has to be scheduled to within an inch of its life. It just means that you need to set some structure around when to do things and how you’re going to get everything done that you need to.
Trait #3 – Organised
This trait is what you would traditionally think of when it comes to getting organised – having systems in your office so it’s decluttered and works for you, a kitchen pantry that’s full of nourishing food that’s in date and organised, a wardrobe full of clothes that fit you and are easy to find, places for your children’s school bags and homework. The list goes on.
It’s vitally important to know your Mum Organising Style so that you can get organised and set up systems that work for you in your home.
Trait #4 – On Time
Did you know that if you have an organised space you’ll have more time? True story!
And because you’ll have more time you’ll also have the chance to be on time.
By being on time for your appointments you will feel less stressed and worried and show the person you’re meeting that you respect their time as much as you do your own.
Trait #5 – Right tools for the job
If you’ve ever tried to organise any space in your home I know you’ve gone and bought product from your favourite stationery and storage store. But did they work? Were you trying to fit a square peg into a round hole?
This is a huge problem for most busy Mums. If you see a product used at your friend’s home, in a catalogue or on TV and love it you may run out and buy it – and then bring it home and find it doesn’t work.
Knowing which products work best for you and the organising challenge you’re working with will save you a lot of money and frustration in the long run.
Trait #6 – Helpful kids
I have a saying “If you want your kids to grow up and move out you have to teach them to organise themselves”.
Children of all ages can help keep your home organised. Enlist the help of the others that live with you, set your children regular chores and routines and expect them to help – and one day they will move out and be able to look after themselves!
Trait #7 – Time for family and relationships
We all need downtime away from our crazy to-do lists. You might feel overwhelmed by all the things you need to do and think “Oh my gosh, there’s no way I can socialise when my washing pile is this big!” – but trust me, you can!
Schedule in a weekly coffee with friends. Have a date night once a fortnight with your partner. Visit your sister for the weekend. Whoever you love spending time with, schedule it and make it happen.
You and your organised home will love you for it!
Trait #8 – Me time
Some Mums are really good at having time to themselves. Maybe they go to the gym regularly, play netball, attend a meditation group, go to their knitting circle, have dinner and drinks with their friends.
If you know you’re not so good at scheduling ‘me time’ please make it happen. By filling up your own tank you’ll find you have so much more to give to your family.
The important thing to know about these eight traits is that you can’t be perfect in all of the eight traits all the time. Sure you might have a grasp on most of them but chances are there is one or two where you need to spend a little more time.
My advice is to focus on the areas you need to work on, spend some time with it until you feel on top of things again and then move on to other traits as you need to.
Working with the eight traits is a continual cycle and as you and your family grows and change so will your relationship with them. Keep them close, focus on them each day, and you will find your life has a lot more balance, substance and, most importantly, you will start to focus on what’s most important in your life.